I dreamed last night that I was in a sprawling lodge. Others are there with me, but I don’t have a sense of who they are. I felt imprisoned, but in the dream, I didn’t experience any restraints. And then I — as well as a number of others — were given what was called ‘a glass rose,’ but was actually a glass staff that was shoulder high and opened at the top into a calla lily. I received the staff with wonder, not knowing why I had been chosen or what it signified, knowing only that I now chose to be in this place. While others set their staffs aside, put them in tall vases, I held onto mine, liked the way it warmed in my hand.
What gift, I asked myself, when I journaled about this dream, could transform a prison into a home freely chosen? What could change my perceptions that much? What did the glass staff even signify?
Dream interpretation always starts with questions for me. Write down the dream. Summarize impressions and then ask questions, allowing the answers to emerge spontaneously from that inner well of wisdom that can rarely be accessed directly and then more by intuition than logic. Surprisingly, just asking questions and remaining open often works, though more often over a period of time than immediately.
So it was with this dream. The title came first and confused me, but I accepted it as part of the dream’s truth. And then, weeks later, the answer came. What can alter a person’s perceptions so much that without a change in circumstances, an experience is transformed from prison into place of belonging? Insight and understanding.
A simple answer, but not a flippant one. Cancer has been my prison for nearly two years. I went into the hospital on the morning of Dec. 12, 2019, for a minimally invasive preventative procedure and left four days later with a cancer diagnosis. I went through chemotherapy alone because COVID-19 hit the state shortly after my first treatment and have been part of a clinical study since that time.
While I have prayed frequently for the grace to make this journey with dignity, I have resented the limitations it has placed on me. I have hated the side effects of both the chemo and the trial drug. Most recently, my immune system started to attack my body as a result of the trial drug. I’ve been on steroids to weaken my immune system to address that problem, but steroids bring their own side effects.
Earlier this year, I realized how incredibly naive I was when I started this journey. I knew chemo would be rough, but I thought my life would get back to normal at some point. I now know that is not the case. The chemo knocked back the cancer, but did not cure it. The immunotherapy is holding it at bay, though minuscule lesions that do not concern my oncologist have popped up in both my lungs and liver. Because uterine cancer metastasizes to the lungs and liver, I view them as a harbinger of what is to come.
The most difficult burden to bear has been the burden of lost dreams. I have always known I would probably work long after my contemporaries. As a single woman whose gifts led me into a profession that pays more than retail, but less than teaching, manufacturing or government jobs — and offers fewer benefits — I knew I would not be positioned to retire at 62 or 65. But, since I like talking to people and writing about it, I didn’t mind continuing to work as a reporter.
I always imagined, though, that eventually I would retire and then I was going to paint. I didn’t think it likely I would be able to rebuild my art career, or “catch up” with fellow artists who were able to establish their professional reputations during the long years when depression had placed a solid barrier between me and my ability to create art. But, I fully expected to polish my skills enough to exhibit work again, primarily because I had started painting periodically and liked what was emerging.
And then cancer arrived and I did not have the physical stamina to take my supplies out to do plein air painting. I did not have the energy to either sit or stand at the easel for hours, working to bring forth the kinds of vibrant images which are my signature.
Living with that awareness broke my heart. A writer writes; an artist creates. Being an artist has been part of my self-identity for decades, even during the dry years when I didn’t pick up a brush. I would look at the work which lines my walls like a gallery and know the truth of my identity. Who was I without that dream?
Fortunately, I have a good set of pastels and a portable camping chair. One day, well over a year ago, when the chemo side effects were manageable, I needed to get outdoors, to feel spring on my face. On impulse, I picked up the backpack in which I store my pastel supplies and headed out to Lake Herman State Park. I sat near the entrance and over the next couple hours did a small landscape. Something inside relaxed as I grew to understand that cancer had not taken my art from me.
In subsequent months, I did others, and framed the pieces so I could hang them. They affirmed to me my identity. However, due to their size — 11 inches by 14 inches framed — I made no effort to exhibit them. I didn’t think anyone would be interested.
Earlier this year, I started painting little landscapes — no larger than six inches by six inches. I can do these in the studio in a couple hours. While small, they are marvelously compete, capturing entire landscapes with an economy of strokes. As I work on these, I am thinking big. I want to put together an exhibit called “Cancer: Living in a Small World,” where I pair some of my earlier work with my current work. I want to do activities with cancer survivors at art centers which choose to show the exhibit. I want to help others battling cancer realize that while their worlds may have gotten smaller, they can find ways to live well in those small worlds.
I think I understand now what the dream was nudging me toward. I did not choose cancer and I have experienced it as a prison. But, in finding in it a way to minister to others, I can experience it as a gift and can live with it in peace. I can hold the glass staff of belonging, not knowing why I was chosen, but knowing I can make a difference in this place.